From as far back as i can remember i was brought up by my mum with the help of my granddad, My Granddad is my hero, he always had the right thing to say in the right situation. He had a sense of humour to rival the greatest comedians of our time, and he was never far away with his next prank. He was my best friend, no matter happened he was always there.
We would do everything together, from trips in to the city, to walking the dogs in the woods, and during those times the laughs were a plenty and the conversations would never stop. We would talk about everything, from what we thought about the television programme we had watched to whether aliens existed, but one of my favourite conversations was when i had asked him how lesbians "did it". after a few minutes of getting over the shock of what i had asked he told me how they lay down find their "special place" and "rub like hell". As a 10 year old i was left amused, slightly disturbed and wishing i had never asked.
We would go on family holidays where the laughs would continue, like the time we had gone to Wales, while climbing a mountain we come across a locked gate, in my granddads stubbornness he was adamant the way to the summit was through the gate, one by one my sister, mum and myself followed by my granddad would climb over the fence, only to be climbing back over 2 minutes later with a dog snapping at our heels, with my granddad exclaiming, "that's not the bloody way".
One day whilst sitting watching television i asked granddad a question i had always wanted to know the answer to Why are we alive?
Without fail he switched of the television, looked at me and started speaking.
"Everyone has different ideas as to why we are alive, everyone has a purpose, a meaning in life, we are all here for a reason. When we die its because we have fulfilled the reason why we are on the planet. My purpose is to make sure you are fed, clothed and looked after, to make sure you have fun, i have taught you to have manners, to respect your elders and treat people how you want to be treated. All of those things are what is expected of a parent or guardian, those are mandatory, but the main reason i am on this planet is to love you, just like when you grow up and have a family your will love your family."
My granddad did everything he said............ and more, so on the fateful day when he passed away i was inconsolable, it was like Batman had lost his Robin, Del Boy had lost his Rodney. I had lost my best friend, my right hand man.
But the values he has instilled in me has made me the person i am today, its because of that conversation that i truly know what it means to love some one.
My granddad may not be around anymore but he will always be alive..........In my heart.